The affection of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, to his family
Whoever imagines that marital life is free from troubles, and thinks that it is a life that has disturbance and that it is complete harmony, there is no disagreement in it, nor blame, nor anger, is completely mistaken. If it is possible that such a life exists, it would be the house of prophecy, and that of his companions who graduated from the school of prophecy, only that, we find that the reality is not like this, and this is not a deficiency, but rather that these things are the salt of marrital life.
That is why we find this beautiful and wonderful story that Aisha, may God be pleased with her, spoke about, as in Sahih al-Bukhari and others. She said: Messenger said to her, “I know when you are pleased with me and when you are angry with me.” She asked how he knew that and he replied that when she was pleased with him she said, ‘’No, by Muhammad’s Lord,” but when she was angry with him she said, “No, by Abraham’s Lord.” She then said, “I swear by God, Messenger of God, that that is so; it is only your name that I omit.””
Aisha, the friend, the daughter of the friend, the beloved, the daughter of the beloved, is angry with the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, but how was her anger? It does not appear in the change in the tone of her voice, nor in her face, nor in her manner of dealing, but rather appears in this gentle admonition when swearing only, so she says: “By God, Abraham.”
Ibn Hajar in al-Fath 9/326 from At-tiibi who said: This is very nice limitation because she said that if she was in the case of anger that take away the sensible choice, she does not change from the stable love. It as it was said:
I will give you repulsions, and I
Swear an oath to you that with repulsion I am more inclined to you. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
In the story, a beautiful gesture from him, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, indicates the perfection of his manners and his beautiful love, because he notices such delicate things and tells his wife about them to feel the extent of his concern about her despite his concerns, and his many responsibilities.
We said that admonition and disagreement is the salt of married life, but if it exceeds its limit, it tastes bitter, so it spoils, repels, and maybe a difference.
If hearts are in conflict with each other, it is like a bottle, breaking it does not fork out.
And he, peace and blessings of God be upon him, said: “There is no kindness in a thing but that it beautifies it, and nothing is removed from anything but that it beautifies it.”
This is with the rest of the people, so how is it with the one whom you combine affection, mercy and a heavy covenant with one??
Says Omar ibn al – Khattab may Allah be pleased with him: “We were Quraish precedence women, when we introduced the fans if they are people overcoming their wives, Vtefq Our women are taking from the literature of women supporters, Vsaht on my wife, Fradjatna, Vonkert that Trajni, she said , did not deny that Orajek, By God, the wives of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, take him back, and one of them will desert him today.
And in another narration, she said to me, “How amazing you are, O Ibn Al-Khattab! You do not want to go back, and your daughter is to go back to the Messenger of God – may God’s prayers and peace be upon him – so that his day will remain angry.
Vovzni, I said: faileth from doing them with great, then gathered my clothes, entered Hafsah, I said: any Hafsa Otagaill the Messenger of Allah case that when one peace be upon him the day until night?
She said: Yes.
So I said: You failed and you lost, so do you hope that God will be angry because His Messenger – may God bless him and grant him peace – got angry, so you will perish?! Do not Tcetkthrey the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, and retrogressive in nothing, not Thjerih, and Asolina what seemed to you, and do not be tempted to have been your neighbor is Oodo you, and I love to the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him – wants Aaihh-
Omar said then I left until I entered Umm Salamah because I was related to her, and I spoke to her.
Umm Salamah said: How amazing you are, O Ibn Al-Khattab! You entered into everything until you wanted to enter between the Messenger of God – may God bless him and grant him peace – and his wives?!
So she took me, and by God took something, she broke me from some of what I found, so I left her.” .. The story was mentioned by Al-Bukhari and others.
Omar was his wife’s retreat, and perhaps her voice rose against him, as stated in some narrations, despite his prestige and severity.
Sheikh Suleiman bin Muhammad al-Bajirmi al-Shafi’i mentioned in his footnote on Sharh al-Manhaj 3/441-442, and Ibn Hajar al-Haytami in al-Zawajir 2/80:
That a man came to him complaining about the age of the creation of his wife stood Bbabh waiting for his wife heard him with her tongue swell and is not silent missed,
Then the man left and said: If this is the condition of the Commander of the Faithful, Umar bin Al-Khattab, then what is my condition?
Umar went out and saw him as a slave and called to him: What do you need, brother? He said: O Commander of the faithful have come to complain to you create my wife and Asttaltha Ali heard your wife as she went back and I said: If this is the case of the faithful with his wife, how current? … “.
Abd al-Razzaq in his Musannaf, al-Tabarani in al-Mu’jam al-Kabeer, and al-Haythami in Majma’ al-Zawa’id reported that Jabir ibn Abd Allah came to Umar complaining about what he encountered of women.
Omar said: We find that so much that I want a need, so she says: You only go to the girls of Bani So and so you look at them!
Abdullah bin Masoud said to him at that: Didn’t it inform you that Abraham complained to God about Sarah’s bad manners, so it was said to him: She was created from the rib, sitting on her as long as you did not see her in ruins in her religion? Omar said to him: God has filled your ribs with a lot of knowledge.
This is Omar, may God be pleased with him, and he was feared among the people to the extent that Ibn Abbas, may God be pleased with them, says: “I spent a year wanting to ask Omar Ibn Al-Khattab about a verse, so I cannot ask him for his prestige.”
Amr bin Maymoon says as in Hilyat al-Awliya’: “I witnessed Umar, may God be pleased with him, on the day he was stabbed, so what prevented me from being in the sky”
But this prestige did not prevent his wife from reviewing him, and did not prevent her from being jealous of him, so that she would tell him that she only went out to pretend or appear to the girls of Bani So and so, and this is what laughs and surprises at its strangeness, but jealousy does that to the woman and she does not know jealousy down the valley from the top as stated in the trail With my father.
Aisha, may God be pleased with her, reported that the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, left her at night. She said: I fell for him, and went out after him, she said, and he saw what I had done.
He said: ((What is wrong with you? O Aisha! You are tempted?))
I said: Why is someone like me not jealous of someone like you?
The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said: Has your devil come to you?
She said: O Messenger of God! Or do I have a demon?
He said: Yes.
I said: And with every human being?
He said: Yes.
I said: And with you? O Messenger of God!
He said: Yes, but my Lord helped me to embrace Islam.” Narrated by Muslim.
All of this is what may happen in homes between a woman and her husband, and it may be greater than it, and if it is treated with wisdom, it goes, and it is followed by love, affection and forgetfulness, otherwise it may lead to alienation, hatred and abandonment, and the Almighty said: God has much good in it.}
And it is proven in the hadith on the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him, that the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “Verily, a woman was created from a rib, and she will not be upright for you in a way.
We need to master the art of reconciliation, and to know the wisdom of dealing with mistakes. Gentle reproach, a free tear, and a compassionate look do what raising a voice and sullen face cannot do.